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armislengan · #1 (**permalink**) 30 Jun 2006, 03:34

i love a gurl in ma school.. shes so pretty and all. my taste la. i love her but i'm afraid to tell that i luv her.. i first know her because she was a gf of my fren. they break up. she alwiz consult wit me after they break up. i fall in love wit her. one day we go out. sort like dating. i'm afraid to confess to her. moreover, i thought its not a good time since she just break up. but now, she had new boyfriend. what should i do???

monumental007 · #2 (**permalink**) 30 Jun 2006, 07:08

I'm not trying to be hard on you but since you'r saying she consulted with you ever sence she broke up with your friend, I think she thinks of you more like a friend so dont get your Hopes to high.

Like I said I'm not trying to be mean but that's just what I think.

On the other hand its always better to know then to think about the what if.

BBlade · #3 (**permalink**) 30 Jun 2006, 07:12

If she's consulting you, that gives you an excuse to be around her. TAke this time to get to know her better to see if she's worth it and not just because your body is telling you too.

Mulduvar · #4 (**permalink**) 30 Jun 2006, 10:28

Dont wait too long to do anything or you'll regret not using any chances that you had

Faerie · #5 (**permalink**) 30 Jun 2006, 13:10

If she has a new boyfriend, maybe it's better for you to give up. You don't want to lose time with a girl who probably doesn't see you more than just a friend while there are lots of other chicks around, right?

daz · #6 (**permalink**) 30 Jun 2006, 14:43

NEVER GIVE UP!!!!

Go for it, if she feels the same way she will proberly ditch the other guy

xxaixinxx · #7 (**permalink**) 02 Jul 2006, 02:42

don't rush it. if she consults you everytime, then that's a step! that means she comfortable around you and trusts you. it means she thinks of your first whenever she feels trouble and wants to be around someone she can trust and talk to! dont' give up yet! i'm sure she'll see that you're always there for her soon!

armislengan · #8 (**permalink**) 02 Jul 2006, 11:57

actually i'm thought of doing something for her later. during her coming birthday, i plan to buy a teddy bear and with it i will confess my love towards her. what u guys think about this?? will this ever work??

luvininu · #9 (**permalink**) 03 Jul 2006, 00:46

i think that will work! better than beating around the bushes. the whole teddy bear thing is VERRRYY cute

Bam · #10 (**permalink**) 04 Jul 2006, 22:00

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Originally Posted by armislengan

actually i'm thought of doing something for her later. during her coming birthday, i plan to buy a teddy bear and with it i will confess my love towards her. what u guys think about this?? will this ever work??

Before you do that, analyze the situation a little better. If she thinks of you as that nice guy who buys me stuff , the guy who sucks up to me or anything like that, you haven't got a chance. The whole mystery with being "just friends" does exist. If she thinks of you as a friend she talks too, that is all you will be. Making her attracted to you will be just too difficult and a waste of effort and you'll be better off trying to find someone else. Confessing your love with a teddy bear can seem cute, depending on how she knows you. It can also seem needy and totally freak her out. If she just talks to you as a friend the whole "love" thing will be unexpected and probably embarrass her, but you most of all, embarrass you. It's also best to not confess your love unless you're are going out, you're best just to try and ask her out and when you are in a relationship, surprise her with the teddy bear. If you feel nervous about asking her out, just test her to see how she feels by bringing up a time you are gonna be doing something and as if she would want to tag along. Although keep in mind, she might say yes because she is your friend, not because she is attracted to you. But if you are in a relationship, giving her gifts like that are better on days when they are not expected like birthdays, Christmas and Valentines Day. So then it actually will be a surprise. But pay special attention to those three days anyway.

But if you do confess to her on her birthday while she has her boyfriend, it's entirely your fault when he decides to beat you up.

But in my overall opinion, "confessing love" to someone you aren't going out with is always a stupid idea to me. There may be a certain scenario where it COULD apply, but it will usually just be a bad idea. People expect too much with using the word love. Just because you think you might deserve her doesn't mean you will get her, and telling her you love her won't make a difference. You will be best off trying to attract her with the way you are around her rather than a word you say or a present you give her.

I think I've rambled too long.