Quarrel Forum

NeKoQQ · #1 (**permalink**) 18 May 2007, 18:22

okay you see i have this problem.. i have this person(let's call tht person X) i like ALOT... .. but.. there's also this other persosn( called A) that he likes i know cause erm that person told me before. and now after we went to diff schools ( our class still keep in contact alot) anw A is in the same school as me. i often talk to X but it's mostly bout A cause he wanna know wht's happening to her since i used to sit nxt to him and we talk alot and i'm one of 2 pple in class tht go to the same sch as A and e other person dislike maybe hate A & X doesn't know e other person well. and i get annoyed but glad. sigh so i reallly dom't know wht to do. i wanna tell X that i like X but i dun wan to spoil our friendship. so any advice apart from telling X tht i like X? or is tht e only way?

dice_auroa · #2 (**permalink**) 19 May 2007, 22:46

i've had a friend casually say that he likes me and we've managed to just move past the statement. it really depends on X's personality. How do you tihnk they'd react. and if you did, do feel that you have to confess, do so in such a way that they do not feel that you will spiral into some freak depression if they say that they like you best as a friend. Seriously, i might hold off on it because from what you say, it looks like X is into someone else and you might just be setting yourself up for pain. And, does A have any idea about what's going on? or are they just kinda there and oblivious.
Best of luck whatever you do.

revan66 · #3 (**permalink**) 21 May 2007, 00:34

Wellll......It happend to me once or twice......but in both cases i give her up to my friend (don't get me wrong i had a plan).Just do as i do let them be....but the first chance you get to make the girl yours, don't miss it.Your friend will understand, if not just tell him "you had your chance and you blow it, i sacrificed my self for you and you blow it".Works every time all you need to do is wait.

P.S:I know i'm bad..but hey i really liked the girl and my friend was fine he just smiled.

NeKoQQ · #4 (**permalink**) 26 May 2007, 20:58

haha thx for the advice. but any idea on how to tell X i like him?

crend · #5 (**permalink**) 29 May 2007, 16:54

I can't tell you how to tell X you like him, those are your words and your feelings but for one make sure that once you confess that you are still willing to be friends, ex. I had a crush on girl-girl didn't like me but i thought she did cause she was trying to set me up with one of her friends-I told her that i liked her with full intent of remaining her friend. Did she reject me? Of course but now she is one of those people that I can talk to about anything and I repect her opinion above several other people who are close to me. (sorry this is so long and not really helping) Also tell your closest friend just before you do confess so that if you are rejected and hurt you have someone there to talk, as to make the pain subside some(really i am sorry if i'm rambling)

alchemistas · #6 (**permalink**) 30 May 2007, 02:09

it depends on what kind of relationship do you want with X.. long term or short term, you what i mean. if short term, just engage him sexually, if long term - make some rapport, seduce him

sayangayu · #7 (**permalink**) 31 May 2007, 15:05

sometimes human heart will change..in ur case, its depend what relitionship u want with X.. if short term, i guess better u 'give' X to ur friends. but if u want a long term maybe till married u need to try get X.

NeKoQQ · #8 (**permalink**) 04 Jun 2007, 14:42

haha thx.. really apreciated.

kanjisasahara · #9 (**permalink**) 06 Jun 2007, 09:14

it doesnt necessarily need to be remotely near sexual. if you love a person it should be on how you get along with him or her, understanding of each other, very deep mutual feelings for each other, etc. once you get by all that then maybe you can think about sex. ive made that mistake before and it got ugly... fast.

indamnrecoil · #10 (**permalink**) 10 Jun 2007, 06:22

this is pretty close to the situation i was in with my current love.
heres what you do:tell him you wanna just chill, and do, just hang out for a while, but then when it starts to wind down, and both of you are about to only have, say, half an hour left, just turn around and kiss him, it'll catch him off guard, cause thats guys really want- something to surprise them and out of the ordinary.then just continue on like nothing happened and wait to see him just think about that. then when your about to leave, just walk away, look back about 20 paces away, then just keep walking.