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lilaznpimpsta · #1 (**permalink**) 17 Mar 2007, 15:36

i need some advice...
theres this girl i know...i've known her for about 5 or 6 years even though we didnt talk to each other much...not until last summer...we started talking alot...sometimes up til 2 am on skool nights....before i knew it, we became really close friends...she calls me her best friend..but i dont really believe her...
everything was ok but then i started having dreams about her...dreams where me and her were together and in love...before i knew it...i fell in love with her...
but the thing is...she already has a bf...and i've known her bf for even longer than she knows him...like 8 years...he thinks of me as a friend but i never really considered us to be friends...we just knew each other for a long time...
after a few months, me and the girl i liked starting flirting more and more with each other...i always felt good around her...like i could relax and be myself...
my love for her is growing more and more each day...but its also aching more and more each day when i think about her...i dont think she'll ever let go of her current bf...they seem so happy together...it hurts every time i see them together...theres only one word to describe it...envy
i think about this girl 24/7 literally...grades have been fallen...not gettin enough sleep...me writing this post at 2 am in the morning is proof...

what should i do? should i tell her how i feel? should i stay a close friend to her...which i think i cant do...or should i just shut her out of my life...
i've been trying to find another girl to fall in love with so i can get my mind off of her but its not working out...i dont think i can find anyone else like her...i dont really talk to many girls in the first place...she just walked into my life all of a sudden after we've known each other for so long...
ill do anything for her...she knows it...and i think shes starting to realize how i feel...because it seems like shes trying to avoid me lately...we're drifting apart...

what should i do...

efrainvillarreal · #2 (**permalink**) 17 Mar 2007, 16:10

you go get that sexy girl of your dreams

efrainvillarreal · #3 (**permalink**) 17 Mar 2007, 16:11

i belive in same sex relationships if both girls are hot .........

6r3g9 · #4 (**permalink**) 30 Mar 2007, 16:58

Hah!.....I'd lyk to help u out, man.....But i'm in the same situation......different details, tho......I'm not sure wut to do either......I'm gonna try go for her even tho she's got a BF......Hopefully things turn out good for both u and me, LOL!

sayangayu · #5 (**permalink**) 30 Mar 2007, 22:39

dont tell your feeling to her now
coz she already has a bf and you
must stay as her close friend. if
you tell your feeling now, maybe
you cannot see her anymore

coz some girl think you not respect
thier reletionship.

maybe some day that girl may
breakup and that day you must
prepare to catch thier heart.
be patient bro, i know that hurt.

alvin1a1 · #6 (**permalink**) 03 Apr 2007, 01:31

Quote:

Originally Posted by sayangayu

dont tell your feeling to her now
coz she already has a bf and you
must stay as her close friend. if
you tell your feeling now, maybe
you cannot see her anymore

coz some girl think you not respect
thier reletionship.

maybe some day that girl may
breakup and that day you must
prepare to catch thier heart.
be patient bro, i know that hurt.

hmm... What you say is some what true, if you tell her your feelings now, not only you will embarrass you and her relation,but also your 8 yrs good friend... Actually you must make it clear to yourself that it is a crash or it is really a love. If it is love, you cant hide it either, people will notice soon enough... If you think you would spoil their relatoinship, then just be her best friend, from there you can love her, let her feel your care... If things changes, ya it might be your chance and if it change to the bad side as a friend you can avoid...

But to a extreme of cannot sleep and failing grades , that isnt good for you at all... Try not to think about her too much, and focus who you are and who the YOU that love her is... If you like her to that extent of cant sleep cant eat, that already is nt love, it might just be another torture and pain for you...

Promise you love her ,but you need to be someone who is stronger to love someone and learn to let go...

Wish this helps...

lilaznpimpsta · #7 (**permalink**) 03 Apr 2007, 23:40

i've decided that im gonna cut all my ties with her...theres other fish in da sea rite?...ima just enjoy my life the way it was before i started liking her...hoopin' like crazy! haha thats the one thing that i love to do...the bball court is my sanctuary wea i can forget about all my problems...well guys, thanks for yall's help.

alvin1a1 · #8 (**permalink**) 04 Apr 2007, 00:12

If you think so, then thats good. But even you cant even be friends with her anymore? Not a lover but how about the friendship?

minidrag33 · #9 (**permalink**) 04 Apr 2007, 10:39

Quote:

Originally Posted by alvin1a1

If you think so, then thats good. But even you cant even be friends with her anymore? Not a lover but how about the friendship?

I think that would be too hard. Too much temptation when you play with fire like that.
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What is more important? Getting together with her or your friendship?

I can't stand guys who are the "friendship" male friend then when the girl breaks up with her BF they jump on her like a shark. That is bad.

If you are going to try and go for her be honest up front. Better to be honest than to be a shark.

BTW - I am F / not M.

rivieracadman · #10 (**permalink**) 04 Apr 2007, 10:47

it seems to me that she might be hinting at her interest already. If you think she is then, telling her might be the right thing to do. Otherwise I would wait it out a little longer until your sure of her intentions.