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elag_23 · #1 (**permalink**) 12 Feb 2007, 16:40

i'm a guy who is really confused coz there's a girl that i really like and i'm planning to court her soon. and i think she also likes me (but that was a year ago). i'm not really sure if she still likes me. and i told this to my friend (who is a girl) wherein i was seeking for her advice during that time. but it turns out that my friend (whom i was asking for advice) likes me. i started to notice this last week because whenever i'm with the girl that i like my friend suddenly gets mad at me.my friend and i haven't been talking for the past 2days. i just don't want to lose a friend and the main problem is who should i choose? the girl that i really like or my friend who likes me?

yosemite · #2 (**permalink**) 01 Mar 2007, 04:35

you should make up with your friend. but if you dont like her, go for the one you do, because you shouldnt date someone you dont really like and break their heart, cause your just wasting her and your time. its better to find out the girl doesnt like you anymore than break the heart of a friend and never have that friendship back.

darech76 · #3 (**permalink**) 02 Mar 2007, 23:55

One thing is confirmed. Make things VERY clear with your friend. If you do like your friend, I'd suggest making sure whether your interest in 'that' girl you really like is genuine.

This is one important factor to consider: are you looking for commitment? If you are, then wha I said earlier matters... A LOT. So be VERY sure of your feelings for either girl, and make things clear with your friend whether you like her as a girlfriend or not. You don't have to be cruel unless she's the obstinate, cling-on type, so just check your feelings first, then proceed accordingly.

One last piece of advice. Don't hesitate.

"Regrets aren't worth a bugger."

yosemite · #4 (**permalink**) 03 Mar 2007, 05:39

good advice

i like that avatar you have there, it reminds me of the nightmare king from "little nemo in slumberland"l, thats if anyone knows that comic/movie lol

nokazzi · #5 (**permalink**) 03 Mar 2007, 09:00

i have a kinda similar situation. there is a girl that likes me (i am 100% sure, cuz she said that to my friend), but i am sure i dont like her. althouhg she isnt my friend, i dont know how to, hm, i guess i could say "un-like" me lol. But i wanna cuz the looks she gives me, the way she added me to her msn list(i never gave hr my email, she fished it out from my firend), and the way she makes unnecesary conversations all the time really freak me out and piss me off. I dont know how to say that to her, cuz she seems emotional, and i dont want to offend anyone. :|

meandme · #6 (**permalink**) 17 Mar 2007, 05:59

Im sorry to barg in but i have a simler situation to you and i wonder if you can tell what to do after you read it please

I have a girl that I love more than my anyone but the problem is that I dont know how she feel about me and there the problem with my brother who propsed to her and her family accepted him and since I like him I never even told him how I feel about it insted I went with him and propsed her for him and now they have tied it and I now its imposple now but still I cant get over it so please tell what to do in case you are wondering in my contry once the family is ok with the someone its case closed.

kingpogi · #7 (**permalink**) 22 Mar 2007, 03:15

you should go out with the girl that you know you will love and she will hug you back. not with a girl that you cannot hug but she can, or vice versa.

Maiko · #8 (**permalink**) 22 Mar 2007, 12:36

@TC I am in kinda the same boat as you are in, It sucks....I hate it =( Though, I like my GF, and I don't know if she likes me.... and my other friend gets mad that I spend more time talking to my GF then her, but my guy friends don't care :P

yosemite · #9 (**permalink**) 23 Mar 2007, 10:40

by BF you mean boyfriend?? anyways just tell them straight up, then you dont have to wonder, thats what i do, i hate being stuck in friend zone

skloy_55 · #10 (**permalink**) 23 Mar 2007, 13:47

why dun u tell the gal u like ur feelings first
cos u think that she like u too
see whether she still has feelings for u first
or whether she is ok wif u
then decide who u want to be ur gal
ur friend or the one who u like
make sure u think a lot about the decision
and better not regret it
there was once my friend who landed in the same situation
he also told the gal he like first
but the gal didn't gave him a clear ans
so he chose the gal who love him
in the end they broke up causing our group's friendship to end

SO AFTER U ASK THAT GAL ASK HER TO GIVE U A CLEAR ANSWER
OR ELSE THE OUTCOME WILL B TERRIBLE !!!!