advice needed! ( thnx )

[ranji]

k well i have been dating diz guy for lyk 5 monthz.. n den he kinda "blackmailed" me.. well he said if i dun transfer 2 his school.. he will ask his dad 2 call up my mom n spill about us.. so i told him dat he is sick n haven spoken 2 him in 2 weekz.. everytime he callz i jz slam da phone down.. n i reali lyk diz another guy now.. who is sendin me totali mixed signalz.. n my "ex-bf"'z frenz r makin me feel guilty by sayin stuff lyk im 2 sensitive n all.. n im lyk.. gosh i dunno.. lost?? so what exactly shud i do..

[pychan]

just pretend you don know anything.. my sister is good at this.. even he call... pretend innocent .. once my parent caught my sis with another guy... and she just pretend innocent.. no parent that don trust his or her own son or daughter..... unless you realy black listed.. good luck to you...

[spirited_soul]

Forget the loser...for him to blackmail it means he is ballsless and will not call your folks at all.
He sounded pretty immature good thing you got rid of him.

Mixed signals guys, you should talk to him first and see how he responds you need more info here.

[koonkang]

blackmail is a disgraceful act in itslef. But for your BF to do it is something else.

If i was you next time hephoes dont slam the phone, talk to him and arrange a place to meet where you can sort the whole problem out, take a recorder or something so if he isnasty you have proof. Oh col shoulder pisses guy off too. And as for the friends... just ignore. If they carry on, use your female postition and abuse it like most girls do even when they r in the wrong. Harrasment and apparently if they say anything about a shirt you are wearing you can do them for sexual harrasment fr looking

[Verdancy]

The ass tried to blackmail you huh? Might I ask what was the nature of the blackmail? Pictures or anything? And it looks as if this guy is trying to get something else for longterm.

Well I agree with koonkang's solution. I am not one to accept blackmail. Normally I would counsel his solution. Make sure that the guy doesnt notice that you are actually recording or he will not say a single thing at all. And screw your ex's friends. They are most probably either out of the blue about things or have been told something else by your ex.


About the mixed signals guy you should maybe sit down with him and talk with him...Even if it would be bold. That's what I would do. But different people do different things

[jertkw1987]

Dun bother about ur ex's frens. Try to ask the new guy indirectly to see if he really likes u

[StrawberrySama]

first off... type proper words! I had to read it twice to read it!! (sorry, my friends all use that language and I hate it... nothing against you...)
I would completely forget the moron, as obviouslyhe doesn't care for you. Sounds like all he wants is someone to call a steady girlfriend...
also, forget your ex's friends. Ignore them...
Play it slow with the other guyh... remember, this is a totally different guy, totally different relationship... if you play it slow and do it right, it may be a brand new boyfriend who will treat you right...

[koonkang]

oh and another thing... if you do get with this guy, be honest about the blackmail. he will probably hear about it or hear stuff about you anyway. if you are completly 100% honest with him, 1 of 2 things will happen.

1. he doesnt like it and doest like you whic means he wasnt worth it in the first place, or hopefully....

2. he will understand and nohing anyone says will affect him. plus when guys start saying stuff about u h can say ahh nah they lies she told me straight, and it all smooths out.

[legoman]

well if he's blackmailing you just threaten him with death or tell your parents he's blackmailing you.

[TFAtarter7]

he sounds like a loser. I would just ditch him.