Men: why...

[dice_auroa]

Men, and i suppose ladies too:
My biyfriend keeps asking if i really want to be with him. I don't understand this. He says he wants to be with me as well but that I might be, i dunno, faking a relationship or something. I have no desires to break up with him. SO, question is; why would one ask something like this? What do you want from us; I'll admit, I don't understand males at all.

[Yuuji]

In actuality its not if someone is a male, or if someone is a female (it plays a part, but it is not the salient characteristic), its the importance of a relationship.

In romantic relationships there is only one person in the entire human race in which you have the relationship with. Thus it is unique, and special, and has certain needs outside of any other relationship you can have. We simply confound this special bond not with the individual, but with their entire gender (sex) and thus we say things like "I don't understand males at all", when its actually not understanding the individual.
Yes there is some general (even specific) crossovers between standard information regarding each sex, but when it comes down to it, its really the person.

Sorry for that long-winded piece of information. But without an operational definition (aka: syntax) one usually cannot focus (pinpoint) the behavior that needs to be addressed.

Although you probably have already thought of this (if not tried this) -
Can you simply ask him why he feels the need to ask the question?

There is a corollary:
Why is it important to you (aka: why does it apparently bother you) to know why he asks?

If you answer the corollary, you are more likely to target (analyze) the behavior in such a way so that you can come up with a solution yourself.

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Now for a non-academic answer (which is probably what you wanted, but since I did not know absolutely that you did, and it wouldn't be fully ethical if I did not, I gave the above).

I do not know your age. But usually up to 35-40 years old those of Western Society feel just as 'human' as anyone else. In other words, he doesn't see why he is so special.
Which, in a way, is good - that means he isn't an arrogant jerk. So he lowers his shields and asks you, which also is another way of saying 'You are important to me'.

He is looking for his good points, through you - someone he trusts and values. Furthermore if he knows what you like about him, he can stengthen those factors and therefore (without force) keep you.

It is important to note that a lot of these factors are usually unconscious - you _know_ something is important, but you don't know why.

No one is perfect. He most likely does not know the exact words to use to say his concerns to you.
But I would like to note that most males NEVER even say a damn thing. This is the 'He never talks to me!' type of male, which usually and completely infuriates girls. At least he is trying - not perfect, but it means he is a helluva lot more capable of growing up (growing stronger) then the avoidance type.

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PS
Now again - I want to stress about the issue of what do _you_ want? Do you want him to stop saying it at all? Do you want to know the underlying reasons? Are you asking yourself the same question, in reverse, but never asking him? Etc, etc.
I only gave such a wide, 'carpet bombing' approach to this, becuase I'm not 100% sure of what you want/need.

But I will say this:
If you can, learning and growing with an individual, for many many years (decades) is one of the most wonderful things on the planet (let alone it becomes one hell of a pillar or strength to draw from).

Life isn't about finding the perfect person. Its about understanding an imperfect person, perfectly.
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PPS
Any guess which field of study I am entering?

[switch]

I have to say true to what I could be bothed readin of yuu's post, but he just might what to hear that u love him or some kinda sign u both feel the same way about each other and his not wastin his time with a little girl thats just playin him.

[SupremeGundam]

I think its just his way of sayin that he thinks your to good 4 him and is askin what you c in him and why your with him.

[Alec]

I think Supreme is on the money i ask my girl friend the same thing all the time cause i always think she is too good 4 me the way she treats me is more than i deserve so I'm always askin her why she is with me just to find out what she likes about me.

[kanjisasahara]

for lots of guys its reassurance that you're still in love with him. for others they feel they dont deserve you or something like that.

[darech76]

I'm with kanjisasahara on this. Simple truth is, whether you're a guy or girl, security in a relationship is paramount when it gets serious for both parties.

My recommendation? Be honest with him. Like kanjisasahara said, reassure him.

Then you could ask the same of him

[Buxtehude]

Originally Posted by dice_auroa

Men, and i suppose ladies too:
My biyfriend keeps asking if i really want to be with him. I don't understand this. He says he wants to be with me as well but that I might be, i dunno, faking a relationship or something. I have no desires to break up with him. SO, question is; why would one ask something like this? What do you want from us; I'll admit, I don't understand males at all.

He's insecure, and needy thats why, he lives for female praise and companionship, not for his own dreams and desires, his world, has become subject to you and your world. And it's probably annoying the hell out of you deep down.

You're probably gonna get tired of him being all insecure and crap. . .You could basically tell him all this and fin dout what he wants to do with his life, and support his as best as you can with that. . .help him keep his focus on what he wants to do, what his passions are. . .and help him in every way you can. I.m not some kind of bible thumber but take a look at proverbs 31

I'm pretty sure once you wake him up to the fac tthat he needs to get over his neediness and insecurity and realize that he's got a JOB to do. . things will be better, for the both of you. . .

you can do it!

[cow]

i most agree with what Buxtehude said. he just wants a confirmation of your love to him by asking you why and what (etc.).

[koonkang]

he is probably just trying 2 make sure the relationship is going smoothly.