Men: why...

[rtype88]

MY girlfriend does the same thing. She offen asks for reassurance that I actually like her.

Simply return a compliement with something other than "you too" and it'll stop.

[KamSolar]

My first thought is that he is trying to find an reason to get out of the relationship without it being his fault, or perhaps he just wishes to test the relationship to see if it will last.

There is always potiential duality in what ones boyfriend or girlfriend says. Understanding it is the hard part, yet when one reaches that point the he or she has reached a level of understanding that will aid in the relationship.

[sunwooz]

I think the above answers give you the idea of why people have the tendencies to get reassurance from their mates. They can't fully love the other until they understand that the love goes both ways.

Romance is a fight for love. If one loves you greatly, he expects you to match up to his playing field.

[ReViLioN]

agree wif koonkang

[CAM_guy]

im with koonkang 2. Although u guys make good points i blieve that it is just checking.

[darius]

he may want to make sure you do feel about him, to make sure that he is making you happy, and maybe he's just trying to get some if he hasnt already

[alexboy8181]

Originally Posted by Buxtehude

He's insecure, and needy thats why, he lives for female praise and companionship, not for his own dreams and desires, his world, has become subject to you and your world. And it's probably annoying the hell out of you deep down.

You're probably gonna get tired of him being all insecure and crap. . .You could basically tell him all this and fin dout what he wants to do with his life, and support his as best as you can with that. . .help him keep his focus on what he wants to do, what his passions are. . .and help him in every way you can. I.m not some kind of bible thumber but take a look at proverbs 31

I'm pretty sure once you wake him up to the fac tthat he needs to get over his neediness and insecurity and realize that he's got a JOB to do. . things will be better, for the both of you. . .

you can do it!

If he does that only once in a while, that should be OK...

[Enless]

I know what you mean. I think it's to make sure about the other's feelings for you. Every now and then I ask my boyfriend that question. By no means I want to break up with him, it's just that I feel insecure sometimes.

[cyw0rg]

Its either he's paranoid & totally out of his mind or he's simply an insecure kid who might need a liitle more either affection or attention...

If he's being the insecure kid, then try to put some more affection up a notch bit by bit (& never cheat by putting the affection level down! Until he's so flooded with it, well it will be obvious when you'll need to shift notches), but "here's the good part", at the same time (since he might've turned into a kid who wants his Mommy) you would want him to realize what could be his greater dreams & aspirations in a world that there is no "YOU"!

Trust me, once he can handle a world with you & a world without you fairly at the same time & you two working your relationships hard, "though it would be boring", but expect longer times with him as a usual result! Though I would prefer the chaotic result! You choose!

On the other hand, I'd love it if he's simply out of his mind! That way, visits to the asylum would be a pain! & your worlds would totally be chaotic!

[kwjw88]

I too think he probably is insecure...
Also, some men don't put feelings into words very well...lol, add on the impending urge to reassure himself, sometimes words come out faster than the brain can handle...and there you have it!

Insecurity, lack of self-confidence, jealousy or maybe just wanting you to have the best, are some feelings that a guy can feel when he's in a new relationship...it's just who hides or expresses those feelings better...just give him a firm reassurance and hopefully that wouldn't come up again...