First impression of opposite genders

[zmonkeyz]

Originally Posted by calmityz

im male
i would 1st look at thier face...c if nice then i go for personality...
but even if girl very pretty but i find out dat personality not gd,i wont want her

o ya after dat i look at their interests!

so we should look at the face first?
i go by instinct....
if i will get nervous when i see the gal i will den try get her telephone number....
haha

[clarcons]

I would just look at them, but actually I would be more interested in their personality. Even if people say that person is ugly but you are in luv with that someone you see it pretty. I wonder why...

[guerrilla_penguin]

I look for a good sense of humor. That's my first stop.

[StrawberrySama]

I am female, don't ya know...
seeing as you can't judge personality from a distance, I ususally look at what they're doing.
The guy I like, well, the first thing I ever saw him doing was in the atmittance day for my grammar school, where he was impersonating Cloud from FFVII (really badly) and doing the FF way of standing before attacking, swaying to and fro. Haha... I was the only person who understood!
Yes, I tend to look at that first. Although, I have this thing aout height. A guy must be taller than me, otherwise I feel awkward.

The main thing I like is personality, definately. A good sense of humour, a slightly screwed up mind (to get my jokes and stories...) and stuff. But they have to be nice ~ as in friendly to others, kind, thoughtful... oh yeah, and I like shyness. Doesn't work out for me, because I'm shy too...
I think I'm rambling... I'll shut up now, I think.

[darech76]

I'm a guy... but most of you already know that

Anyhow, yes I do approach a girl from a physical angle at first, but my standards of 'at least pleasant-looking' just about allows me to like ALMOST every girl I meet. Oh, and one thing: I have this 'thing' about noticing the thickness of the neck. Somehow the first physical impression for me takes consideration of two primary physical factors: neck and ears. For me the neck speaks volumes of the person's figure in the future. I'm not against fat people mind, but rather people who spend hours being slim but the moment they lose it, there's no return. Kind of like Alicia Mercado when she won the Miss Universe crown. I thought, 'She's all right now, but that girl's got FAT written all over her future.' Less than six months into her reign and I was right.

The thing about ears: well, no pierced ears. So while in terms of physical appearance I certainly accept at least 'pleasant-looking', this little physical requirement cuts down the total number of girls I would consider by 95%. I'm still agonising over whether this is a realistic requirement, but 'Mariel' and 'Sandy' didn't have pierced ears, so it's a hard and confusing time right now.

Next up before personality and character is demeanour. For some strange reason I would prefer a girl who looks good (in my opinion) when she's downcast, frowning, serious, studious or basically NOT having fun (thence not smiling).

So all in all, I would gauge personality and character while assessing demeanour. I can get along with obsessive girls provided the focus of the obsession is fidelity and not money (I'm certainly no scrooge but I'm no moneybags either and I stink at amassing great sums of money). And she certainly needs to be of some intellectual level otherwise communication will be a problem... which means the lingua franca by default is Anglais. She also has to have an open-mind at least (especially given the nature of my interests ).

As far as compromise is concerned, I would dump everything else in favour of just pure physical looks and body if she would be a slave to my whims with zero resistance and objections.

[RazorbladeRomance]

I guess in all the cases the first variable is soem physical thing, which you can see external
It could be her eyes, lips, pretty face, cnack ass, nice boobs, the clothes she wears...
a lot of possiblities, which are by all the girls something else!
But at this time we can just speak about passion, for sure not about love!
and when you get the girl known, her personality, way of thinking, living...
first at that time can it turn into some feelings:
hate, frendship... or the most beautifull one
LOVE!

[exette]

Well for me.. the first impression of guys.. will have to be the appearance.
i guess someone who is well-dressed, confident.. and able to carry out an interesting conversation will definitely leave a positive impression on the woman.

Someone who is not pushy on the first meeting is good too.
There was once i met this guy who wanted to know me more after a bday party... well.. i would say he is really good looking, and yah.. he is pretty well to do... but i never want to answer his calls, msg or watever after the first meeting ... because after a meal and movie on our first date... he just say something like... "you know i really like you.. and i hope we won't be just friends... will you be my gf?"

That was creepy i feel.. *urgh*

[dice_auroa]

as a girl,
I look to see how he acts around others. If hes nasty and overly boisterous i will stop it at friendship at best. If we actually get to first date, i have a bit of paranioa and look out for 'stalkerish signs' cause i just cant deal with the clingy i want to know where you are every min of your life. (happened one too many times) besides that, looks or weight or ethnicity really don't matter too much to me so long as he is someone i can be comfortable talking to.

[Afroangel]

well all guys must look a bit at shape first .. but after that its definitely the smile.. can tel a lot from it

[krisz_rendan]

Im a male, tis is the order in wat i look first when i meet a girl
1. Personality
2. smiles
3. Looks

Bottomline, the personality or inner beauty is the most important factor for me. dat decides wheter im interested in a girl or not. SMiles is second, i rly2 have a weak spot for girls who winks n stick her tongue out like tis smiley would show :P
looks come in last, not dat important for me